LONELINESS IS CONFUSION

 This is for all the lonely (confused) people

I was one once too and without daily lhojong practice, who knows Confusion is like rust, it never sleeps 

I came across a rabbit hole of : I have no friends : videos on the YouTubes

and it walloped me, the dearth of comprehension producing needless suffering. 

I wonder what people imagine when they imagine the word friend, at what age that was created and how it is manipulated by marketing to capitalize on a built-in mechanism that requires belonging, but not through external acceptance but internally, a belonging to onelself that is then shared in community grounded in a self-confidence born of integrity, like a mountain, That ought to have been guided to flourish during early rearing through enlightened parenting 

You are missing nothing unless you decide you are. You are the decider

"Friends" are an illusion

Friends aren't like LOVE MONEY you keep in the bank

Friends aren't minders or handlers of validaters

That is all up to you

Friends aren't proof of your existence

Friends do not determine your worth or ability or survival

Friends are not in a fox hole with you in this war of life

This life is not a war

All encounters with others are opportunities to interact in a friendly non-biased open manner

Friends are for puppies, they are transitional to individuating

When you grow up you have Collaborators: co-adventurers, bosses, employees, co-workers, people who have common interests, common love, people you see at the gym at the same time every day, people you meditate with, take karate with, sing with, FELLOW FOODIES on MeetUp.com you eat with, people you take improv classes with people who hang on the youtubes etc. you get the point, people you do service for, because, you're fully confident

Loneliness is not (re)attaching to yourself

your own source of being

to what lights you on fire

It is needing reassurance or validation (or distraction)

Things we cannot put on others,

No one knows exactly what our path is

Unless you know what you want it's just noise: confusion, pain, suffering

It's all within never without.

Your mood is not something to fixate or fixate on

it is never permanent, unless you neurotically continue to refixate on it

WHAT ANYONE WANTS IS TO BE LIT BY THEIR OWN INTERNAL FIRE AND THAT IS AN ART FORM

THAT IS A DAILY PRACTICE OF ENGAGEMENT

WITH ONE'S OWN BEING OF UNIQUE DESIRES AND JOYS

(there's room for all, there's no competition, that's big business delusional bullshit)

THIS IS HOW TO BE A WARRIOR A MOUNTAIN A REFUGE TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS YOUR DESIRES WILL HUMBLE YOU LEARN YOU BREAK YOU AND FILL YOU WITH JOY YOU MUST PURSUE THEM THEY POLISH YOU SO YOU SHINE AND THAT SHINE ATTRACTS OR REFLECTS THE SAME IN OTHERS

GLORIOUS INDEED IT IS

When you're all about what you love then you swim in the same streams of similars

and that makes most excellent collaborations

If you need to improve communication skills?

Excellent opportunity to seek out a collaborator for that

OK

(no matter how many friends you have, no one is ever there when you need them because karma, because you don't "need" them)

Now, just breathe, relax the left brain, stop terrorizing yourself that you're missing something and allow your creativity to guide your thoughts

We are always flowing around eachother

you don't need to scoop out a handful and use them to expand your ego territory

Abandon juvenillity

If you need to share some happy news with someone, the barista that makes my coffee most mornings and I have excellent 2 min. buoyant banter convos... are we friends?

Grow the fuck up.

lol

namaste.

#loneliness #lonely #nofriends #youtube #starbucks have great #baristas #mentalhealth

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